Sunday, June 26, 2011

"You're Fat"

Something happened to me on Friday night that I just cannot shake from my head. I went out & was having a great time with friends...and as we got up to leave from the bar, I walked past this guy who had the audacity to whisper to me, "You're fat."

Not wanting to be juvenile & get sucked into his immature games, I acted like I hadn't even heard him and just walked away. However, I later told my friend how pissed off I was about it.

Listen...I'm not denying that I'm a bigger girl currently. It's something I'm well aware of & working on fixing. For some asshole (excuse my language) to explicity tell me I'm FAT just seems so beyond immature & wrong...I don't even know where to start. That is something that elementary school kids tease children about when they're still too young to understand how hurtful it could be. This is a COLLEGE STUDENT who obviously should know right from wrong at this point in his life.

I'm very happy with my life right now. I have a great job, good friends, a supportive family. I'm consistenly doing things that make me smile. But this guy really just pissed me off. Not in the "I wanna kick his butt" kinda way. In the way that I can't believe someone would be so immature.

I feel like if anybody is going to understand how I truly feel...it would be ya'll. It's not like this kid is going to make me develop an eating disorder because of what he said. It's just...annoying, if anything.

Anybody else ever have something like this happen to them?? How did you deal with the feelings of anger towards someone so...childish??

xoxo

10 comments:

Roz @ weightingfor50 said...

Hi Lyndsay,
OMG....that guy is an ASS!!!! How dare he???? At the risk of sounding flakey, karma is a bitch and he'll get his. Keep your chin up, you're doing great!

Me said...

What an ......PEEEP....!!!
Seriously, that guy obviously isn't as mature as he should be at that age. He's got a problem. If he can't see past a woman's appearance he's never going to a get a good relationship. He's the one with the problem!

But I so get how you feel. Years ago I was walking home and I had just bought me some Belgian chocolates, as a treat for passing an exam. As I was walking I tasted one. Just as I did so I two men walked past and said: 'you shouldn't be doing that, you're fat enough as it is!'
When I got home I cried. Not because I felt sad, because I was so angry!!!
I get your emotions. And I stil question people's motives sometimes; where the hell do they get the idea that they can say these hurtful things to people???

Plump Nonfiction said...

I had a similar situation but this one happened right near my house with one of my neighbors. Some guy a few townhouses down from me was looking at me through his window and he said "FAT ASS" out the window. I was so pissed but it just fueled me to get my act together.

It's a sad thing that we live in a world where we are judged so harshly.

I know how you feel.

After dropping over 80 pounds, I don't feel like eyes are on me anymore for being overweight. I feel normal.

I hope you take that rude remark and make it into something positive.

Take care!

Kelly said...

Euuww, that guy is a douchebag! I agree with Roz, he'll get his, don't you worry about it!

Alissa (A Journey to Thin) said...

Wow- what a jerk. I don't know what would inspire someone to say something like that when they don't even know you...other than they obviously have some personal issues.

That's so hurtful though and I totally understand how you feel! :(

Jassi said...

Ugh, I hate people like that.

I was walking home from the library one day with a friend and some guy walks by and says "Looks like Sea World lost another one!" I yelled back at him "Looks like the looney bin lost another one!" And he was like "Go back to Sea World, Shamu!" It pissed me off. Luckily there was another guy who heard and he was like "Don't listen to him, you're very pretty." He made me smile. But ugh, I was so angry. Though personally, I think it's worse when my friends are like "Can you get out of the car?" Then it's like "Dude, there is more than enough space here, and I may be fat, but I can fit in more spaces than you think." -.-

Ignore morons. Maybe he has a secret fetish for big girls but he's embarrassed of it (hey, if they say homophobes are closet gays then fat haters are secret fat fetishist. That's my story and I'm sticking to it lol)

-Jassi

Tanya said...

How AWFUL! Immature! Ignorant! Seems my new theory in life is that people are stupid...this guy being the kind. First of all, how rude. Second of all, how's he know that one day you won't be interviewing him for job he desperately wants? We just never know who people really are who cross our paths - unfortunately some people are too young/immature to think of the consequences of their actions. Ignore him and people like him and know that your weight does not define you...and you are doing awesome things to get healthy!

SlimKatie @ Runs for Cookies said...

Wow, what an immature asshole! I used to get comments like that once in a while, and I, too, would ignore it. But now I wish I had said something clever... "Yup, and you're ugly. So what?" or in a really gushing tone, "OHMYGOODNESS, that is SO PROFOUND of you! Seriously--you must have gone to HARVARD with that amazingly brilliant observation! Thank you so much for enlightening me!"

Anyway, I'm so sorry that someone made you feel bad. It's an awful feeling.

Sheri said...

Oh my gosh! I'm new to the blogging world and was out and about perusing other weight/food blogs, and I came across your post and I'm fuming at that jerk!

Seriously, did he feel all cool and clever afterward? What was the point?

That would be one of those situations where I would have been struck dumb in the moment, but afteward wished I had done said/done something, like, I don't know ... stopped dead in my tracks and said, with all the wonderment I could conjure, "I am?"

Looking forward to following your blog ...

Blossom said...

What a jerk. Luckily it's never happened to me (maybe behind my back, I dunno). You played it right by ignoring him but I always fantasize that in that situation I would have a witty comeback, like I may be fat but you're ugly. Guess which one's easier to fix!